Con't offense story

PERSON: Brenda, Please tell me the story of a man, a boy and a donkey.

MEDICINE WOMAN: There was an old man, a boy and a donkey. They were going to town and it was decided that the boy should ride.

As they went along they passed some people who thought that it was a shame for the boy to ride and the old man to walk. The old man and boy decided that maybe the critics were right so they changed positions.

Later, they passed some more people who thought that it was a real shame for that man to make such a small boy walk. The two decided that maybe they should both walk.

Soon they passed some people who thought that it was stupid to walk when they had a donkey to ride. The man and the boy decided maybe the best thing would be for them both to ride the donkey.

Soon, they passed a group who thought that it was a shame to put such a load on a poor helpless animal. The old man and the boy decided that maybe the critics were right so they decided to carry the donkey.

As they crossed a bridge, they lost their grip on the animal and he fell into the river and drowned.

The Moral of the Story: If you try to please everyone, you will eventually lose your ass!

PERSON:
What a wonderful story. I'm so glad I wrote you a note. I was bothered by your many posts and now I know what I was to learn. I recently joined facebook. At first, I didn't like how my old high school friends only posted complaints. I began to make friends with like minded people that I would find commenting in a nice pleasant way. I began to rejoice that now most of my facebook friends posts were positive and life-giving. Today, my spouse and I started our day worried about finances and rather than give thanks for your positive posts, I was irritated by them. Because I was not looking with love, I couldn't help myself. I am sorry that I took my out-of-alignment out on you Brenda. I was taken a back by your mention of being a good girl. I worry about being good and such things myself. I am trying desperately to pull my family out of a financial mess and trying to not have lack mentality. I have chosen to see your posts as another example of abundance that is all around me. Many blessings to you my friend. Please forgive me.

MEDICINE WOMAN:
Again you have blessed me. I am so happy. That we connected. I can't stop crying. I know I truly have healed something in my life. Keep being the beautiful person you are and keep yourself open so you can consciously see when your thoughts drive you in a different direction. Sometimes we tank instead of thank but then hopefully we can outgrow that and give more thanks then tanks. Remember for every thought you think your brain has to create a chemical peptide so you will feel it and it goes out into the world to create that experience.

Many Blessing from Medicine Woman Brenda Bates

heal or deal with the offense?

When I was writing and didn’t want to choose to heal the feeling of the old triggered condition of a past decision. I want to belittle this person. I want to hurt this person right back. But is that me? Being ego or spirit. Since I love to walk my talk. I choose heal it instead of deal with it. So this is what I wrote.

I post for only those that need or want to hear it. I post because it inspires me when I go through all of my friends. I learned a few months back that when you have a few friends that post a lot, it really looks like a lot. But when you have over 500 friends you don’t notice it. What I have noticed is what are they putting out there on their post. I have over 900 that are constantly inspiring me. It takes me a long time to get through them all. Half the time I have to save the inspirations for another day. I was deep into spirit today, my cup was overflowing.

I know that one day i was so depressed and when i heard inspiring words it saved me. So if I can help one person, I feel like I am giving back.

I understand the way you see me. Your perception is correct for you. I can't show up to you any other way then you let me. Because you are a reflection of me then I maybe feeling small. by rights i should feel small next to our plant next to the sun then next to the universe. I am not the only one that feels inspired and love being with their Facebook friends.

I use to run an unresolved story. It stated that if comments from people like yourself would say innocently or suppose to hurt me. I would get so muddled in my thinking. My ego would take over and I didn’t know how to act. I don’t know how to act. Maybe they are right. I would be so confused that I became such introvert. I didn’t want to communicate with people because I saw it as very hard and hurtful. I didn’t know who to believe or what to believe. It meant that I was a bad girl and I should think twice before I do it again. I am to apologize and somehow repent and obey. Then I would close myself down and make sure i prove to you that I am a good girl. In this case I would unconsciously not post for about a week then when I did post, I would post only once until I get my courage back that I am not a bad girl and then I get to inspired and then send out a frequency for someone else to tell me to shut down, slow down, shut up or stop or you are doing it because...

I heard of the story of a man, a boy and a donkey. I realized that I can’t please everyone. Because there are too many perceptions of me.

Thanks for being my reflection today because it tells me if I am still hooked into old programming or have I healed it completely. So I don't bother you with my posts. You can hide me or delete me. I didn't mean to hurt you or bother you in anyway. I am just so happy to be alive and sometimes I like to live out loud. I was even taught that it is okay and it is encourage to live out loud.

Thank you for the clue. I am being 3 yrs old and don’t know my place or how to interact with people. I am extremely shy. When I do interact I am told it is wrong.

Oh thank you again. You provided me with an example to go with my posting of Rebecca Saxe: How we read each other's minds

Thank you for being a blessing.

stay tuned there is more...

To take offense or not to take offense.

We are spiritual beings creating and sharing a human experience. Why do things happen? I was so happy that day. My cup of joy and happiness was over flowing. I then got a message in my inbox. I read it and I at first took offense. I was hurt. I scaled it and realized it was a 1 1/2 out of 10. As I began to write a response, my thoughts made the 1 1/2 go up to a 3. I trained myself to know when I am negative. I used my healing HOPE Therapy technique and it went down to a zero. I thought to myself. Is this person tanking me? Did their day go so bad they must tank me? But why would I project this? I did it because a program inside of me kicked in. Am I doing the right thing? Am I bothering people? Completely unaware of it, so I projected it out into the world (energy cords and we have lost of them good and bad) to mirror back at me. It was up to me to decide how I was going to respond to it. I once read.

Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it. Lou Holtz

Here is the letter and you tell me how you would respond?

I have 11 posts from you so far on my wall today which means I have to keep scrolling and scrolling to find the messages from my other friends. Are you feeling small and therefore wanting to post and post so that you will feel more heard? I have felt that way before. I can relate but the kingdom of God is within you.

So tell me how you would respond?

Changing Your Reality in Minutes.

I drove down to NC in Oct 2008 to become medicine woman/spiritual leader and I did it by myself. This was a big step for me.

I was talking on the phone with my husband. I was asking how far will I get on a tank of gas. I had 1/4 tank left and I really didn't want to get gas. He told me that you will be fine. I said well at the next town I will get gas.

Bad news. It was after 10pm and places close and the only things coming up were small towns. I was on E. I had to make a decision. On a scale of 0-10 my fear was up to a 3. I wasn't sure what was going to happen. My ego was making me feel that I was going to run out of gas and no options and all the bad things that might happen to me.

So I asked God to give me a sign. I passed a town called Waldo. I laughed and said I found waldo. (clue-I am finding myself) I saw a sign for a hotel. So I turn off and saw it and said hell no. Did you ever see the movie Psycho, with the Bates motel scene. Well my fear went up to 6 and I could not get back onto the road that I just got off of. My GPS was down. My phone was down and I couldn't think.

I said show me a sign. I choose to let go of fear. I saw two gas stations that were closed. I pulled into one and sat under the light. My fear and anxiety that I would have to stay there all night was an 8 I was crying. I played with my phone and got my husband. He was in bed and didn't answer so I said I am okay but I have to spend the night in a gas station parking lot. I hung up and called 911 and then they gave me a number to the sheriffs department. I was so upset because they didn't connect me and I didn't think I to ask. I prayed the phone would work one more time.

At this time, I started tapping (EFT). I then brought the fear down to a 4 and then I got through to the Sheriffs department. He said that he couldn't do anything for me but would send a policeman to drive through every hour.

I did another technique (EHT) and this time the feeling went to zero and color white and the thoughts stopped and the feelings of fear were gone. I felt okay. I thought okay I am sleeping here. I opened the trunk to see what I had to use to sleep all night in the back seat of my car. The policeman pulled up and said are you the woman in distress. I said yep that's me. He said I got to thinking. I only live about 2 miles from my house and I have gas in a gas can. I will come back and we will see what we can do. He left and I thought cool. He came back and said okay, we decided that we will put the gas in and drive you as far as your car will go and then if we have to we will fill the gas can up and pour it in again and get you safely to the gas station.

They drove me across the state border and to a gas station. I was so elated. I filled my car up and drove to the next town for a hotel and the town was called Ripley's. Like in Ripley's believe it or not. I was so happy I used the tools to stop the insanity. I was able to find myself (waldo) and go through an experience and not let it control me. (Ripley's believe it or not the experience happened.) I am finally in charge of that experience. I stopped the ego insanity. I remembered to use the tools.

For every thought you think a chemical peptide is created and you feel those thoughts, once you feel you think and what you think you feel and so on. Continuously creating a chemical peptide that becomes so overwhelmed that it can't play itself out it just hooks you deeper.

Insanity is doing the same thing expecting differnet results by using the same mind that created it in the first place.

problem and solution 1-13-09

Problem:

What clue did I see today? This is what stuck out like a sore thumb. I noticed a show called “what I like about you” Val has bad luck with getting married. She can’t allow herself to be happy. Her sister Holly is always happy but represses her emotions. Val is about to get married to a man she really loves but is looking for the shoe to drop. Holly has the love of her life to move away.

As I examine this I noticed that they are attaching. Val has love with grief. Holly has happiness with no feeling. My in my daily world this girl said I am depressed and sad. I can’t understand why I feel this way. I normally feel happy. As I listened to her, she believes she doesn’t have any friends. All I heard to ask her was. Do you not have friends because you choose that or because they choose to not be friends? Her look explained that she didn’t think of it that way.

Hope therapy Reading:

We found a pattern. She took out joy out of life. There is only joy when she thinks it is fun. Everything else in her life is work with misery. There can’t be any joy in this. She has taught herself to look for the misery to make sure to see if this is fun or work. If it is work she goes into the feeling of frustrations, stubbornness, listen to the ego complaining, thinking of how can I get out of this. What happened to her physically? All those chemical peptides that her thoughts made are built up. She now has a cold, coughing, sneezing, running nose, tired, and can’t focus.

Solution:

What we did then was help her consciously notice the pattern of how she thinks. That she has taken out the joy in things. She gets to choose again. People think great now things will work out. Not really. If the pattern has built up to become chronic then when you switch thoughts and give yourself a pep talk you will back slide. Your brain has been programmed to hold that negative pattern. You need to do more then just choose again. You first have to consciously be aware of the pattern. Next is give her an essences like Tree, Bach, FES, or Australian bush. Then I give them the tool of EFT – Emotional Freedom technique. I then have them sit in front of me and would do EHT and hold the pulse points while I talk them through from detaching them from the outcome, the stronghold of that belief and limited decision.

Because her body has become sick. If the degree is a cold and can handle then nothing. If the symptoms are really bad then I make a customized homeopathic. I would check her pH Balance and if it is a little low then suggest eating more alkaline foods. If the pH Balance is really low then I suggest them on a different program. If it is chronic and the terrain has been infested with colonies of fungus, parasites, bacteria, or viruses then it is highly suggested that they use a customized homeopathic that will address those issues.

January 9th, Friday 2009

I am one step closer to healing a big issue of mine. I have been playing out this continued story. I told you yesterday that my daughter is having problems fitting in. Well since she is the first ring of illusion, she is what is in my face to heal. The question is what clues or mirrors am I getting from this.

I first tell people to list the name. In this case my Daughter. Then the negative beliefs, qualities, or limited decisions.

ie: Daughter

Dreading to go to school and be around her friends
Yearning to have friends, something better then what she has.
Physically making herself sickThinks about it to much contemplation

Well that is it. I see that dreading falls under the kidney meridian. Which means that emotions is set as a trigger point (learn more about myotherapy) Kidney represents the cleansing of the water in the body and water represents emotions. As a medicine woman I would use a healing technique that is called EHT –emotional healing technique. This is where I use the pulse points, the oh my Creator points, a scale and of number and color. I have you get into the feeling and thinking process then in a matter of minutes.

You will see the number and color change and you will feel yourself becoming less attached to that emotion or thought process. Then when it hits zero and white then it is cleared out of your emotional and mental body. Then I use hands on healing to clear it out of the physical body and aura. If it has been in there longer than seven years then it is a spiritual issue as well and probably will require a customized homeopathic as well.

Again anything that you are unsure of the meaning please visit my other blogs for definitions.

I have to go to the emotion of Yearning and contemplation. With the case that she is making a physical manifestation of her thoughts. ((Oh by the way, for every thought you think a chemical peptide is created and it acts like a key and locks itself into the cells that represent those neuronet emotions. So it can play it self out (acute) or become chronic and create the body environment to always show up as not healthy.)) I would still use the EHT method. I would use suggestive words that would help the subconscious mind to release the pattern of the body to have to go into sickness. Remember that all healing takes place at the subconscious level.

January 8th 2009 dread & yearning

Today's mirror started at 7:20am. My husband came into the room I am sleeping in and said I have to go to work and I ran out of time to get our daughter to go to school. Turned the big light on and left. She did come in the room and sat down. He was looking for me to force her to get dressed and force her to go to school. I knew that she was hoping I would pity her and let her stay home. I am for listening and having compassion but pity is what gets me in the poor house. It is pitying that lets me be the carpet people walk all over. It is pity that makes me an enabler. Sometimes when you take something to the extreme it because unhealthy for you and the other person.

I laid there listening to her. My ego is saying I just want to sleep. Oh pity me. I am sick and I have to get up in a few hours and perform intellectual work. I can't handle this. I see know way out of this hell. This is going to go on and on and on and on and on. Please let me sleep. Why can't you just go to school and do your part. My ego even goes further by saying why doesn't he give me the same respect that I gave him. My ego whined on with self talk about how I jumped out of bed as soon as i heard a cry so it wouldn't wake him up. I would keep the light off in the hallway in order not to disturb him. Sometimes I couldn't see where I was going and trip. I took care of those babies so you didn't have to. There maybe one time that you actually got up and helped but you bitched the whole time. So in order for me not to hear you bitch I would just sacrifice myself and just do it. I yearned for you help. My ego would get caught up in the stories of how the husband got up with the baby too. Or did it so the wife could sleep. My ego wanted to blame and complain. I made this projection so up over and over again so the ego can prove that I am right. talk about living in the ego mind.

My spirit on the other hand said Brenda listen to her. She is telling you valuable information about you. She told me of the same problem as before. I don't have any friends. I don't want to be at school and watch everyone play and I don't. I knew that she wasn't going to give in. She was hoping that my pitying her would give her the one thing that she wanted and that was not to go to school. I was able to see her belief system and the decision she made that is now limited. I see the amount of emotions backing up her belief and decision. I also see the mirror of me.

I realized that my projection sitting there was me at that age or younger. I did not want to participate in life. I would rather run away and start over but if the option were there. I would say no because it was scarier then were i was. I didn't have any skills to cope with it. I just wanted to fit in. I wanted to be listening to. I wanted to make people laugh. I was the too serious one. I had replaced my response of love with anger to everything.

Well she got her way after 2 hours. I had no fight in me. I didn't want to fight. I just wanted to her to go to school and me to get back to sleeping. Kids have the energy to stick it out. parents have the energy to cave and make it all stop. I know that beating her, yelling at her, bribing her, doesn't work. I know when she has her mind set on something it is like a steal trap.